LESSONS
IN
LIFE AND LOVE
Don't be quick to believe the
worst about people you know. There may be more going on behind the
scenes than you are aware of. Bluto may not be trying to make them
look bad, but is Satan pulling some strings? Are there pressures
on them that you aren't aware of?
A relationship involves trust
and forgiveness. If Olive had only been willing to give Popeye the
benefit of the doubt, or said, "This doesn't seem like the Popeye I know,"
or "Even if he did do what I think he did, I forgive him," she could have
saved herself a lot of trouble later in many cartoons.
A relationship also takes work.
Popeye cannot take for granted that Olive Oyl is "his girl." In some
cartoons he reminds me of guys that I've counseled who can't understand
why their marriages are falling apart, yet ignore their wives' feelings,
always want things their own way, and have a "need" to be "free" to pursue
their hobbies and go out with the guys whenever they want even if their
mates are bored. And their wives find someone else. Imagine
that!
Having your dreams come true
may not be all it's cracked up to be. Olive Oyl has romantic fantasies,
but when they start working out in reality, she realizes she'd rather be
with plain, dependable Popeye after all. Her dream dates turn out
to be not so dreamy when she gets past the veneers of looks, wealth, and
athletic ability and sees what they are really like deep down inside.
Many people have gotten what they thought they always wanted in life -
riches, fame, a good-looking mate, status, important job, vacation home,
etc. - only to find themselves still feeling empty and frustrated.
Some of the "rewards" bring their own sets of headaches. I need to
make sure I'm working toward and dreaming about being in God's completed
kingdom, a reward that won't disappoint. Remember, the grass isn't
always greener once we are standing in another lawn. In fact, as
Erma Bombeck said, sometimes, "The grass is greener over the septic tank." |